what would u do ?

[wooo12]

If u asked out a good friend you had known, for lets say 2 years, and s/he rejected you on the grounds that feelings were not mutual, do you think you could carry on being their friend?

Because my 'friend' has done this to me!! He felt he couldnt be the same! is he being melodramatic or am i being inconsiderate.

If im being inconsiderate please tell me, but nicely, im fragile, well not really im relatively over it but just wandering what u guys would do.

thanks :)

[XxAnniexX]

I know this may not help, but I had a "friend" who I fancied but the feelings were not mutual... But that one day happened when he was finally interested in me, I had already met someone else (who I might add is now my husband) and that "friend" was left to wonder about what he missed out on.

Carry on being his friend but don't wait around for him is my advice, I know loads of peeps say it, but its true... there are plenty of fish in that big open sea, and yours is just waiting to be found ;o)

[wooo12]

sorry i think i made it confusing :P

He asked me out and then felt he couldnt be my friend when i said no.

[XxAnniexX]

he's probably hurt from being rejected, let him get on with it, but still be there if he calls... at least he knows where he stands with you next time

[XxAnniexX]

he's probably hurt from being rejected, let him get on with it, but still be there if he calls... at least he knows where he stands with you next time

woo and tell him the advice I gave you!! hee hee

[wooo12]

hehe.

ive totally ruined the question.

now everyones going to tell me how im better off without him. loll. whatta bum!

[Lonnie]

In my opinion, no, because the relationship has changed, at least from his point of view.

It comes down to the old thing about can men and women have platonic relationships, I don't think so. He's probably been holding a torch for you for a very long time without saying anything, and when eventually he's plucked up the courage to ask you out, he's been rejected, at least, thats the way he'll look at it.

[actionmanc]

the same thing happened to me, and he couldn't be my friend, and then six months later he was over it and now we're friends again, not exactly like nothing happened, but long enough to brush it under the carpet. everything will be fine if you let nature take it's course and follow whatever instincts you have next time you see him. if you feel he's being a drama queen and he disagrees then that's life! we cant all agree all the time.