What Would You Do

[Harshitha]

imagine your daughter has the habit of writing diary. She is really close to you and you love her so much. She is always silent and agrees to everything you say. Out of love you do everything for her yourself. One day you discover that she makes an entry about you that you are always underestimate her, that you force her to do everything, that you are meddling with her life, that you are making all the choices for her, that she would be happier without you, that shes wasting all the time spent with you, that you are selfish, that you dont let her achieve her dreams, that you are stupid and that she hates you. What would you do as a mother though you know she has never done anything like this before? After knowing the darkness in her heart, can you forgive her?

[ummmm]

Firstly you shouldn't be reading her diary.

[Zulu59]

I would ask her what her interests are and try to start there. I think the best advice is don’t go snooping because you might see something you don’t like. Maybe you should suggest that she sees some friends as well. You don’t want to smother her. Don’t stress I know this must be tough.

[naomi24]

Are you the mum or the daughter?

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Family/Question1592868.html

[Harshitha]

the mum

[woofgang]

so why did you post as your daughter?

[naomi24]

So why did you post the other thread as the daughter? I'm confused.

[Harshitha]

I'm the daughter posting as the mom and the daughter. Please just give me the answer.

[Harshitha]

dear spathiphyllum, I am really happy with your answer, actually I'm writing both as the daughter and the mom just to know what each of us should do. Please tell me what to do....

[anthro-nerd]

I used to write terrible things about my parents in my diary when I was a teenager. Turns out my parents are pretty great and I was just being an ungrateful teen!! Give her the right to her own privacy and don't take it to heart, she doesn't mean it

[Harshitha]

Yeah. Its too bad she can't read any of this.

[woofgang]

Harshitha, setting aside your problem, if you post on places like this and people think there is something fishy about your post, such as posting as both the mother and the daughter, you open yourself up to a rough ride as people will, understandably be suspicious about the truth of your post. In future probably best just to tell the truth and post as yourself.

[Zacs-Master]

Well said spath.

[Peter Pedant]

yeah I agree that I look back 50 y to my teenage years and dont find much to be proud about...

I stopped keeping a diary because my parents insisted on reading it...

[Peter Pedant]

// People shouldn't care about the truth...//
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well howdy doody ! AB is certainly the place for you !

I hate hypothetical questions - complete waste of hot air

[woofgang]

oh ok spath so you are sole the ed reporter and the rest of us can shut up.....also I was offering advice....compared to us the rest of the net is a shark pond.....assuming the OP is a teenaged girl, if she tries that trick elsewhere she won't get gentle questions about who she is.....