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I am 36 and have no sex drive.
I have two children 11 year old aspergus syndrome son and a 3 year old daughter.
I have been with my arner for 7 years although we don't live togeather.
we are due to get marriefd next year but sex is not happening.
I have no interest in sex at all. my sex drive has never been very high but I need some help,
help me please
lucy
I have two children 11 year old aspergus syndrome son and a 3 year old daughter.
I have been with my arner for 7 years although we don't live togeather.
we are due to get marriefd next year but sex is not happening.
I have no interest in sex at all. my sex drive has never been very high but I need some help,
help me please
lucy
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Before you talk to your partner ask yourself what would really turn you on, what do you enjoy, what are you worried about with sex and get some things clear in your own mind. Tell him that you're tired and you think your sex drive is suffering and suggest alternate evenings or a time when you can fulfil each other's fantasies. Ask him in detail about his and then try to make it come true for him. Then it's his turn to make it happen for you. Pick a time when things are relaxed and you won't have distractions and interruptions if possible and make both occasions special for both of you. Just take everything slow and steady and enjoy yourself, keep it warm and loving and really indulge yourself and hopefully if it;s a really good expereince then your sex drive might pick uip a little. Make sure though that your partner is 100% sure that it's not his fault that you feel this way at present or it could have a negative effect and hurt his self esteem.
noxlumos's post is, as usual, a very good and wise one, however, i'd just like to add a few things.
My daughter is Autistic, and as such, I have had some experience with Aspergers sufferers also, and know how much hard work they can be, can you talk to your Social Worker?, because it just possible that this could be caused by the stress and worry of looking after him, and they may be able to qualify you for some respite care, and if your already getting some, a few days more.
The thing is, if your son can go into respite for a few days, and you get someone, (family etc) to look after your daughter, you and your partner can go away and totally relax for a few days.
But you do need to talk to someone as well as you partner about this.
I really wish you, your children, and your partner all the best for the future.
My daughter is Autistic, and as such, I have had some experience with Aspergers sufferers also, and know how much hard work they can be, can you talk to your Social Worker?, because it just possible that this could be caused by the stress and worry of looking after him, and they may be able to qualify you for some respite care, and if your already getting some, a few days more.
The thing is, if your son can go into respite for a few days, and you get someone, (family etc) to look after your daughter, you and your partner can go away and totally relax for a few days.
But you do need to talk to someone as well as you partner about this.
I really wish you, your children, and your partner all the best for the future.