Bare With Me

[nailit]

I feel like I'm posting for England tonight. (apologies)
But theres a woman that I know (a friend) who has made it clear in the past that she would like a bit more than just a friendship with me. While a sexual/physical relationship appeals to me (I'm a man after all and I like sex) I just cant be interested in getting emotionally involved anymore.
I support her as a friend (got a few problems similar to my own) but I just cant be arsed with all the difficulties of relationships anymore. Ive all but given up on that score and don't want the headache of it all.
I love her as a friend (and yes, I could easily go to bed with her) but don't want too.
My heads knackered with it all!

[davegosling]

Hence the "bare"? :-)

[Spungle]

And the question is....?

[ummmm]

I wouldn't go there.

[murraymints]

then tell her that ! ..

[Mamyalynne]

Unless you both want the same, don't - it's too complicated.

[woofgang]

why are you saying this to us? say it (nicely) to her.

[ummmm]

Probably, maybe, Nailit is a little bit tempted.

[nailit]

Yes umm, I *am* a little tempted.
Really don't want to go there tho.
(trying to be a gent)... ;-)

[woofgang]

yes ummmm, he has said he is.....

[ummmm]

Some people successfully have a friends with benefits arrangement. I'd guess most don't though.

[melv16]

If you want to keep her as a friend, then, don't cross that line.

[nailit]

The irony!
I've lived in sexless relationships. I'm now single and have the offer of sex thrown at me. And I couldn't care less.
What The Funicular?

[melv16]

Something isn't right if your heads saying that, nailit.

[Patsy33]

Listen to your head... for now anyway.
Perhaps one day when you're able to cope better.

[DTCwordfan]

which head?

[Peter Pedant]

this is not 'bare with me' but

"bare with her" ? - - - isnt it

[-SharonA-]

She might entertain the idea of being a friend with benefits!!! ;-)

[nailit]

//She might entertain the idea of being a friend with benefits//
She has.
I'm not so keen on the idea though.
Yes, Id like to take her to bed and **** the behind off her, but to be honest I prefer her as a friend.
Got no interest whatsoever in having a quick shag and then forgetting it.

[kvalidir]

You can have a loving friend with benefits 'relationship' that means something but comes minus all of the hassle of a monogamous one, providing that that's what you both actually want. If only one of you wants that and the other sees it as a stepping stone to a more conventional relationship there will trouble when that doesn't materialise, so if you do go there, just be careful she's not taking baby steps to becoming the next Mrs Nailit in her head :) x

[nailit]

Thanks for replies, especially to Kvladir.
A lot to think about.
Certainly don't want a Mrs Nailit knocking about....
(Or any more mini nailits on the run a round...)