P.S I agree with your comment about lack of sympathy from some nurses and modwives. After my miscarriage, I was told it was probably because I'd fallen pregnant too soon after my first baby (she was 10 months old at the time).
Talk about making me feel guilty, I felt as if the miscarriage were all my own fault.
Luckily, my GP was more understanding and reassured me that it was just an unfortunate thing and there was no reason why it should happen again.
If you can't get any sense from the people you see on the wards at the hospital, ask if they have a counselling service - ours did, and it can be very helpful to talk to someone who has time to listen to you, explain what's going on, and just understand what you're going through.
Good luck again. x