family visiting rights when splitting up?

[stuarthouse]

Hello
I am currently living in same house as ex partner that is in joint names although completely paid for by me and still is. Currently been to one mediation meeting due to go again late August which hopefully we will then come to a financial agreement to to start the transfer of mortgage etc. My ex girlfriend has children from previous relationship an 2 are staying here at the moment for 2 weeks which I agreed to although very difficult with just us in the house with her 2 children as well I feel an enemy in my own home at times. She has just told me tonight that her parents are staying last 2 weeks of August. I tried explaining how I feel but got told there is nothing I can do about it . The way I am getting spoken to and no disscusions about anything I do not think I could stand 2 weeks of her parents staying as well. With her name on the mortgage is there anything I can do to stop her family staying if it was to come to that. I do not want to get nasty but as some will know living in the same house is difficult enough and surely her parents should realise. I have tried to compromise with her children but feel the parents stay could be too much for me.
Look forward to your help.
Thank you
Stuart

[WendyS]

This is certainly going to feel like being swamped but if the house is in joint names she does have a right to invite family to visit. . However, where does she propose sleeping them if there are already four of you living there?

I think you are going to have to sit down and work out some civilised ground rules for their visit. If she's not prepared to do this and you suggest that she's already being difficult, I suggest you tell her that if she can't behave like an adult you will withdraw from all negotiations regarding the transfer of the mortgage. I don't like the idea of emotional blackmail but until you can go your separate ways, there has to be some discipline in your reationship while you're all living under the same roof.
I suppose, being the school holidays, she has to take her share of looking after her children. Next time you get a partner, avoid one with any children by a previous relationship !
Could you contact her parents and tell them politely that they must understand that rleationships are difficult at the moment but for everybody's sake you expect everyone to behave in a civilised way while they are staying

[lady_p_gold]

Are you sure this is not some sort of creeping campaign to make you give up and go ???