Man's odd behaviour

[Sunlight]

I recently went on a date with someone i have been friends with for a few months, the date went really well - he seemed really interested in me and we ended up kissing. but since then he has been a bit off with me - before the date he had been contacting me all the time, being flirty etc but now he is hardly contacting me at all and when he does he isnt as friendly as before. i could understand if the date had gone badly but it was really good, we got on really well, also i'm pretty sure he may have said he loved me while we were kissing but i wasn't 100% sure thats what he said so i didnt reply. does anyone have any ideas why he could be being off with me?

[dot.hawkes]

yes, it would seem you have disapointed him in some way, men's expectations of our female capacity to please them and only them are not only unrealistic but archaic in many ways.

[nursecarla]

Are you sure he isnt seeing anyone else? x x x

[jiggy-gb]

LOL! Way to tell it like it is dot!

Not all men are like that but it does sound like dot might have got it spot on. If he did whisper that he loves you, and you didn't repond in the same manner then he will sulk for a long time! Cut your losses, you could have ended up with him for good, stroppy git!

[dot.hawkes]

jiggy i agree stroppy bad, cute and funny good.

[nursecarla]

Dot and jiggy get a room :) x

[Touareg-8]

Do you smoke by anychance?

[Sunlight]

Yes i think i have disappointed him in some way, but i cant think how. he could be seeing someone else, i'm not really interested in a relationship right now anyway so i dont mind if he is, but i suppose if he was with her that could explain why he wasnt in contact as much. your right jiggy, i cant stand sulky men so if that is the case then im better off not bothering with him. and no, I dont smoke. oh well, i'll just see what happens, i cant be doing with someone that is so confusing!

[Cockney_si]

Maybe he feels that although you both had a good time it's not what he's looking for after all.

Saying you love someone is a bit early on when still getting to know someone is either a way of getting you to trust him or he's just insecure about the whol thing.

Maybe he'll com around once he's though it over.

Also If you've told him you're not really after a relationship at the moment he'll be off elsewhere....unless he's dead keen to exploit the boundaries of that one.