No Bucket Lists For Me

[bainbrig]

The Grim Reaper draws ever nearer, and thoughts turn not to the abjectly selfish ‘bucket list’ (me, me, me, Things I must do before I die - just another manifestation of the Me-generation) but to an A4 sheet of paper listing what good I have done.

Very little on it yet, in fact it’s blank. Maybe kindness to animals gets on.

Saddened by its blankness.

BB

[ummmm]

Zebo - although it wasn't an intentional good deed my sons teacher wrote him a letter when he left school saying that if wasn't for him she'd have gave up. It was very emotional letter. I hope she's still in teaching. Very proud moment for me as well.

[rowanwitch]

Kindness to animals should count plenty. As has already been said you don't know how little things affect others. You can try being mindful of your actions so you choose kindness when chances arise.

[kvalidir]

Bill everyone makes a difference to other people they just often don't know it, and you're a naturally kind man from your posts on here so something you have said or done will undoubtedly have made a difference here alone. Magnify that to your real life and you've really accomplished something. x

[jno]

I think you're getting bucket lists all wrong. They're lists are things you'd like to do before kicking the bucket. "Kindness to animals" only gets on the list if you're not kind to them already. Just as "visiting London" doesn't get onto mine because I live there already.

Nothing wrong with thinking you'd like to see the Taj Mahal or go on a cookery course - there's nothing "me me" about it, everyone's entitled to have their own list of priorities in life.

[mallyh]

hope you feel better soon and remember you have AB friends .listen to james taylor you've got a friend :-) x

[Patsy33]

Maybe you should write a list when you feel better BB :-)
Hope you feel better soon. X

[bainbrig]

No jno, I know what bucket lists are - my point is that I’d rather people concentrated on what good they’d done in their lives, rather than what spectacle, what experience they think would be so fulfilling on the way to the grave.

Maybe it’s a version of Kennedy’s (borrowed) quote about asking not what you want, but what the rest of humanity wants.

[ummmm]

You can have both, BB.

[AuntLydia]

I'd rather people concentrate on getting as much out of life as possible before the grim reaper calls, not patting themselves on the back for the good deeds they have done in the past . Life is for living now, not looking back on past glories.

[Peter Pedant]

what is wrong with - - - liked small furry animals?
and 'was a good lad to his muvva'

[dannyk13]

Bainnbrig, you could always make a bucket list of good deeds to do.

[bainbrig]

Interesting thought, danny, ta.

B

[woofgang]

while I don't want a bucket list myself, I don't disapprove of them....I do think its important to keep in mind that we are here for a good time, not a long time.

[Hopkirk]

Go on, make a bucket list.

Start it off with seeing 'The Mousetrap'

[jno]

fair enough, bainbrig, but I think it's as ummmm says - they're not mutually exclusive, you can do both. And I don't think bucket lists are "Me Generation", I think it's normal to have things you want to see and do and has been so for generations - the Grand Tours that young aristocrats undertook in the 18th and 19th centuries, for instance. More people can afford to take tours nowadays but that hasn't turned it into a selfish pursuit.

[Pyxis]

I was feeling down one day, and went to the bank to pay a bill. The very nice young male cashier dealt with my bill, and as he finished, he said "I really like your hair".

Now I was old enough to be his mother, so it was a most unexpected compliment, and it really cheered me up!

Yesterday, I staggered to my local shop feeling rough with The Cough, to get some meds and hot toddy ingredients, and the young chap at the till asked me how I was, so I said I wasn't feeling well. Anyway, we exchanged a few anecdotes about having colds and coughs, etc., and then as I turned to leave, he said "I do hope you feel a lot better soon".
That was nice.

It really is the simplest things that can make a difference.

[hereIam]

That's a lovely post Pyxis.

BB being kind to animals is VERY important imo ..

[bainbrig]

Pyxis. Me too. Thanks for your post which has made me smile and cry.