Dilemma

[jazzieb]

Just would like another opinion on this!

Have known this man for a couple months now - last Wednesday - we chatted down the local and seemed to get on well - have texted a couple of times.

I would like send a text implying that I like him a bit more than a friend but am a bit scared incase I get a negative reply - do I or don't I - it is doing my head in as I really like him and don't see him that often.

Be grateful for your help on this!

[crete]

play it cool let him text you before you reply you dont want to scare him off

[natalie_1982]

Why don't you ask him out for a drink and spend some time with him?

Then if it goes well you can tell him on the next 'date'!!

[China Doll]

Nat's right. Meet up for another drink, see how you get along. If all going well then drop some hints after that.

[Cockney_si]

Most blokes would love the woman to make the first move and most women want the bloke to make the first move.
This causes lots of wires to get crossed and lots of people to fall out for no reason.

Do you know if he's single/married/an axe murderer (ok was joking about the last one!)

Next time you see him, ask him if he'd like to meet up sometime.

Suggest you can do something like cinema or drinks or something, If he's really intersted in you like that you should be able to put him on the spot enough for him not to be able to run away from the situation as with a text message.

Good luck !

[jazzieb]

Thanks for your help! The way I see it is that if I have to wait until I see him again it could be ages as I do not get out very often thought if i texted at last i would know either way. Hes divorced by the way.

How would you put together the message I'm so useless at these things

[~Wingnut~]

Hey jazzie

Grab the bull by the horns and ring him and ask him out for a drink or even better a meal!
Like Cockney_si says, alot of wires tend to get crossed by people not wanting to seem too keen.
If he knocks you back then at least you know where you stand.
If you really want to text instead of ringing, I would put something long the lines of:
Hi! I was wondering if you are free on <insert day> to go for a drink or if you like we could go for a meal or catch a film? Look forward to hearing from you. Take care xx

Please tell us how you get on!! I'm rooting for you! xx