Thanks Mamya, April 5th is a bit of a cursed date in our family anyway and now my friend just died leaving behind him a lovely wife and two little ones and in the midst of all this Mr Cal had to go off working on one of the few times I'm feeling really quite brittle, so I'm stuck here rather forlorn and useless, although I have no right to be really, these things happen to everyone, it's just so sad sometimes when bad things happen to good people x