Happily Single

[nailit]

I just wrote on another post that I live the life of a monk nowadays and happily so!
I also saw a FB post today about an 80 year study by Harvard on happiness, this study came to the conclusion that happiness is based on the quality of our relationships with others (it took 80 years to reach that conclusion??? Really??? No ****Sherlock!)
This study suggested that single people and loners died earlier and were more prone to disease etc.
This study might have its merits and obviously relationships with others...be it family, friends, work colleagues, neighbors etc...play an immense roll in our lives, but why do people think that single people are unhappy?
Ive never been happier been single.
(and I'm somewhat of a loner. I have friends around and often looking at the clock as to when I can get back to my book)

[Purist]

I think if you are happier single then its probably because you were not in the right relationship.

[rowanwitch]

You pretty much all know my recent history but strangely I would class myself as really happy for so much of the time, even my thoughts of Dave are happy ones mostly.
I don't rule out other relationships in the future but if it never happens I know I have been so lucky to have known what real love is. I would say that I am so changed by that relationship that my barriers to others faded away as my self worth grew. I choose joy and hope that will carry me on through a long and interesting life.

[murraymints]

Rowan..what lovely sentiments xx

[spathiphyllum]

how do you get a girl to see her own self worth rowan? That's one of the hardest things I struggle with i think.

[rowanwitch]

You look at her in a way that says more than words now wonderful you think she is, if she is plain,or just thinks she is, tell her she is beautiful, praise her in front of others, remind her of how she has improved your life and how lucky you are. Never let her doubt you, never give her reason to mistrust you. And if you are lucky .... Well Dave isn't around to ask but you might find out.

[woofgang]

" Would any bereaved on here ever consider the possibility of remarriage if the right one came along?"

For me that aspect of my life is over. Its not a choice I have made, its the way things are. I know its different for other people. You have to do what is right for you.

[pixie374]

I've always been happier single. It is obviously easier and less demanding and maybe I am just naturally lazy. Like others, I have always lived with my children at least and I think it will seem very quiet once they all move out... but I just can't imagine wanting to live with another adult again.

[Sqad]

Madness! madness! all women should have their babies in hospital particularly a 37 yr old woman with her first baby.

[pixie374]

Wrong thread :-) x