update on "how to tell my mum" about me being builled

[xxlizziexx]

just though i'd let you all know that i told mymum whe she came back face to face and she was glad that i told her sooner rather than later, thank you all so much for encouraging me to do so.
i hate to tell you all but it hasn't got better recently, in face its got worse, im un able to in school today beacuse of it but its nice to no that i have suport here : ) thank you. xx

[Danni79]

Well done for telling that was very brave. I was bullied when I was younger and I know it is not much of a colsolation but hang in there things will get better it won't last forever, just keep your chin up as best you can x x

[Englishbird]

Glad your mum was cool about it.

What are they doing lizzie? you don't have to tell us if you don't want to, but you never know, someone might come up with a gem of an idea.

[spaced]

Well done Lizzie! That's good that you told your mum. Dont worry about the bullies, as I said in my last post - they are just coward picking on people better than them because they are jealous. Dont let them get you down, as that it what they want. Just ignore them and keep communicating with your mum.

Hope all goes well for you.

[xxlizziexx]

englishbird - what do you mean what are they doing, do you mean what are the school doing or what are the people that bully me doing ? x
thx 4 answers x x

[spaced]

i think she means what are the kids doing to you.

[xxlizziexx]

oo rite sorry,
it started off me being best friends with them, then we started fiting more and more and i always had to say sorry and that it was all my fault, so then they got this sort of power over me, i did what they wanted to do not what i wanted. then they started laughing and saying comments and that went for ages then i stoped talking to thm and moved away from that group of people and then they carried on doing it even more and then shouting at me and one time one of them cmae up to me screamed and shouted at me asking why i wasnt talking to her any more and she ended up hitting my boyfriend adn then she spread roumors about me and it just got worse n worse and im just scared she'd hit me. theres two of them that do it.

[Kay]

Has you mum had a word with the parents of these 2 cowards lizziexx?. Is the head of the school also aware of this? You or your mum should phone your local police station,they will send a community officer to the school to talk to these 2 cowards and have a talk to the parents. Remember,all bullies are cowards! Why should you have to miss school because of them?

[xxlizziexx]

my head of year knows and a teacher that deals with all bully and problems to do with students. the girl got punished at school for hitting someone else and was just threatened with suspension if she does anything else. but it doesn't seem to stop her. she knows the school is serious and will punish her again but it doesn't stop her from doing it.thats what so frustrating. if it was that serious i'd of thought the school would have involved the police. xx

[zara 4]

Its a shame schools don't deal with bullys how they like to say they do,my kids school is useless for that,how you say they're acting sounds like jealousy to me maybe because you have a brain and they don't have that,all bullys have followers and that is what makes them what they are, it seems to me xxlizziexx that they're fighting against themselves cos no one else is interested in them.Be proud that you are not one of their clones you are worth more than that!

[Englishbird]

Yes, sorry, that is what I meant.

Ok, as everyone has said previously, these girls are pathetic and it is nothing you have done that causes someone else to behave like that.

That said, there are some things you may be able to do to improve the situation in the short term. Two of the things you have already done absolutely correctly, telling your mum and the school. And I trust that they are doing everything within their power to stop or minimise this.

Do you have other friends at school?, is it possible to make sure that someone else is with you at all times? You need avoid stooping to their level, you're better than that, so ignoring them is always better than retaliating. But you also need to try and show them that you're not scared. I know that is easier said than done, and whatever you do, I don't want you to put yourself in any physical danger, but bully's are exactly that. They will only pick on people that they think they can beat. They'll never have an argument with people that they think are stronger than them, and I don't mean physically, I mean mentally.

Is it possible for you to go on a self defence course, so that if one of them was ever going to attack you, then you would have more ability to protect yourself, this would also improve your self-confidence, which has probably taken a battering through all of this.

I'll reiterate, I don't want you to put yourself in any danger but if at all possible, keep your chin up and walk into school with friends and think to yourself that you will not let them intimidate you. It is your future and you will not let them take that away from you. x x

[PhilBy]

Lizzie, My advice to both you and your mum is to report this to the Police, this is not as heavy as it sounds and they will have trained officers who can deal with this situation. Any form of bullying is a criminal offence and I fear most schools think of the reputation of the school before the welfare of those being picked on.

Nice to hear from you hun, hope things get better for you soon but don't forget............. phone the Police!

[spaced]

Phil is right, get the police involved. I must admit, a friend of mine's son was bullied. His parents met up with the bully's parents to sortt things out, and it stopped.

The two people ganging up on you just confiorms that they are cowards, they need each other to bully. I bet their too scared to bully any one on their own.

Keep us posted!

[zara 4]

How right you are spaced, bullys ARE only "hard" when theres two or more,on their own they cant seem to get away quick enough! Cowards each and every one!

[vivalamojo]

The reason people bully is because you are getting upset.

It is not because of what they are teasing you about, it is the fact that they can see that is either hurts or angers you.

In order to make bullying go away, they have to see that you are okay with it. It is that simple and then it isn't fun anymore for them.

This is one of the most useful websites I've found on the topic and what you can do about it: http://www.bullies2buddies.com/