Should The Money Be Mine?

[bednobs]

The industry I and my husband work in is difficult to recruit into. When I was made redundant last year he said I should look on the website of where he works for jobs. I applied and got a job there. Now he has received a 1k bonus for referring a successful recruit! I maintain the money should be in part mine but have as yet failed to convince him to give me any of it. I did all the hard work interviewing (plus there were tests to go throufh)and all he said was why don't you look on the website for jobs!

[Patsy33]

Any decent man would share it, imo.

[Eleena]

Technically no. Had it been me, I would have gone halves.

[bednobs]

id like to think I would have done too, but it's more likely if it were the other way round I would have kept it :)

[dannyk13]

Throughout my marriage any windfall money was always shared equally by both of us.

[SparklyKid]

Very odd, not a marriage I would like to be in.

[andy-hughes]

I have to agree with some other posters, I would spend the money between you, but that's how we operate, it's a shared pot, and always has been.

I remember years ago before we were married, and we had very little money, the soon-to-be-present Mrs Hughes was struggling to raise two children and keep her house, while studying for a teaching degree.

I was at work, and my boss, a bit of a racing fan, asked me to pop down to the betting office and put £5 on a horse - he was advised it was a sure thing, because a lot of horses are trained to win a race at long odds which gives the owners the money to feed and train it for another year - and he had an 'inside' tip.

I was writing out the slip, and I heard the odds - 8-1. I realised that would bring him fifty poinds if the horse won, and this was in the early '80's, and to us, that was a fortune! I decided to back it as well, and we duly collected £50 each.

I have no idea what my boss did with his winnings, but I handed mine over to an amazed student (I have never bet on a horse except the National before or since)and told her to treat herself with it.

It actually paid the electric bill, but needs must, and all that.

[bednobs]

I doubt you would like to be married to my husband too sparklykid

[Peter Pedant]

take a leaf out of lysistrata
no boodie even in the moodie unless I get the moolah !

[Peter Pedant]

// Throughout my marriage any windfall money was always shared equally by both of us.//

O ! I am not married but I thought the rule was
the woman gets it all !

[Peter Pedant]

jesus that was pretty generous of you andie

oh oh and can I spoil my praise by adding a predictable one liner - oh pleeeeez
right - and she said I am still not going to bed with you .....
ter daaah !

[tamborine]

My OH shared his windfalls with others & if he found my stash he would take that too. Methinks he wanted praise & adulation from others & we were taken for granted. He hated shopping & that was when I recuped any loss by doubling up price of purchases :D

[andy-hughes]

PP - // jesus that was pretty generous of you andie

oh oh and can I spoil my praise by adding a predictable one liner - oh pleeeeez
right - and she said I am still not going to bed with you .....
ter daaah ! //

As always, I have no idea what you are talking about, and remain mystified as you why you feel the need to incorrectly spell my name.

[Baldric]

Nothing in your OP suggests it should be yours, he earned it fair and square.
Whatever you sort out between you is just that, a personal arrangement.

[Eleena]

bednobs, is it likely your husband expected you would have kept the money to yourself had you received the bonus? It's a two way street, sharing both ways.

[Peter Pedant]

it was generous of you Andie to give it to the student - the money - calm down everyone
£50 went a long way in the 80s

unless you didnt give the money to the student which would account for your total confusion

a one liner is a joke of one sentence - like - 'I went to Philadelphia once but it was closed' (WCFields)

can I help with anything else ?

[Rockrose]

You should share it 50/50