Should I Cut Him Off?

[Hoplessromantic]

So I dated this guy my senior year of high school. Once I got to college I ended up breaking things off with him. Our relationship was strong, but we were just hours away and I was afraid that would hurt our relationship. After that we really didn’t speak much. We are now 21 and have matured a great deal. We recently started hanging out. I told him that I still have Strong feelings for him and wanted to get to know him better as an adult and possible work towards a relationship. The chemistry is there between us, so that’s why I openly told him how I felt. He told me that he doesn’t wants to focus on his self while he is finishing up his last semester of college. I was crushed when he told me that. He still wants to hang out and be friends, but he also wants to have sex. I don’t want to be friends with benefits with someone who I deeply care about. Should I set boundaries and try to remain friends or should I cut him off completely? HELP!

[Mamyalynne]

He's been pretty honest really, he wants sex but without a relationship - if that's not for you then leave it.

[Mozz71]

If you go down the FWB route, your feelings are uncountably going to get stronger for him. That is only going to hurt you in the long-term.

You've both been honest with each other, which is a good place to start. If the pair of you can't be "just" friends for now, I'd move on if I were you.

[ummmm]

If you can be friends without it hurting you then stay friends; there's a good chance those feelings will change as you meet new people.

Don't have sex with him though. That will just mess your head up for certain.