Thanks everyone, I didn't know any of that.I sent a message to someone I knew from years ago but didn't get a reply, but it did say,
You and ?????? are not connected on Facebook, so I was wondering if perhaps they either didn't see the message or perhaps they don't want to get in touch or perhaps I'd need to send a friends request first.
It doesn't say that Bobbi ,it just we are not connected, whatever that means.
Woofgang, I didn't know there are other boxes.
elliemay, i did think of doing that but thought this person might not remember me so I wanted to explain in a message who i am.
It could be someone who doesn't go on there very often so I'll wait a while then try again.
What FB means by 'you are not connected' means you are not their friends on FB. Simply send a friends request and then its up to the person if they accept that. If they do then you can message them privately or put a message on their page.