Sometimes Even The Good Ideas Dismay Me

[rowanwitch]

Very frail elderly gentleman and stage copd and severe arthritis
Shielding
Until 6 months ago cared for by his wife no passed away

Emergency food parcel

Large butternut squash, large cabbage already going off, tins of soup and beans and spam
He wouldn't know what to do with a squash
The cabbage would feed a family of 10, but only on the day it was given, and his hands were so bad he couldn't use a tin opener.

Only found out because he was found dead and the neighbour looked in the parcel was

He didn't know how to cook apart from a few basic things.

Because of 'confidentiality' no one told us his wife had died, she never went out and he didn't engage in conversation. If three support team had been ab le to tell us about his problems I would have gladly swapped some of the contents of his parcel for a daily hot meal

Just makes me sad that's all

[Theland]

Sadly, this is an all too common occurrence.
Lonely in a crowd.
Yes, it very emotional and thought provoking.

[LadyCG]

Poor chap sounds like he was badly let down. :-(

[rowanwitch]

I just compare his death to Dave's. Loved and cared for until the end

[CrapAtCryptics]

Call me cynical but I`m sure the family who didnt help him will be lining up if he had any money - seen it so often lately.

[RATTER15]

"Because of 'confidentiality' no one told us his wife had died"
To my knowledge, you can not break confidentiality when it is concerning a person that is deceased.

[LadyCG]

CaC ... where there's a will, there's a relative.

[iluvmargie]

Very, very sad for the poor soul, but he's with his beloved wife again now and that's all that matters. Still wish he could have been helped more though.

[rowanwitch]

No the confidentiality issue was they couldn't tell us he was on his own and while he would never ask for help he might have accepted it was offered.

[Mamyalynne]

That's awfully sad, especially as help would have been there for him.

May he rest now.

[Patsy33]

Not thought out very well, was it?
Poor soul.

[woofgang]

Rowan, it makes me sad too...we used to have ways of getting around confidentiality...like asking in passing "have you had a referral for Mr X yet?

[rowanwitch]

Sadly it only works between professionals, even five years ago they would let it out to someone who might be able to help, on the basis of I wondered if you could maybe check during the weekend.