Should I Just Shave My Head?

[undiagnosed_adhd]

I’ve been wanting to shave my head for a while. At first I wanted an undercut, but I realized I had too many split ends and tangles from the years of damage my mother did by straightening and relaxing it. She’s always wanted me to have long, beautiful, and curly hair. For a while, she influenced me to want the same thing. Over the years, I’ve seen many people with many hairstyles and decided I want to shave my head. I like the look of it, but my mom doesn’t want me to. She says I’ll look like a boy or that people will judge me (I of course had already put such things into consideration and still don’t care). I tried reasoning with her telling her that it’s quarantine so there’s no better time to experiment. That I wanted to express myself this way and didn’t care what others would think. When I finally told her that I wanted to start over with my hair and that it would be more manageable, she finally started to half listen. Apparently me wanting to express myself and boost my confidence And mental health wasn’t a good enough argument. I should also probably mention that I am 17 so I am old enough to make my own decisions and that she’s a very controlling and narcissistic woman. In the end, she said she didn’t want me to cut my hair at all, because it’s her house her rules (again ignoring that it would only help me. She usually only lets me do something if it benefits her), but that she would let me go down to 3 inches if I got it done professionally. This of course is not what I want. She plans on leaving when I turn 18, so she’d only see it for a little less than a year. I’ve stopped caring what her or others think of me a while ago, but I want to see what others opinions were from an outside perspective.

[barry1010]

Just get it done

[New Judge]

//I should also probably mention that I am 17 so I am old enough to make my own decisions…//

Or possibly not, in your case.

Why do you mention “quarantine”. Where do you live that “hardly anybody will see me”.

Having said that, looking at the “undercut” perhaps completely bald will be better. At least people won’t think you can’t tell your backside from your elbow. Looking on the bright side, it should only take about nine months to a year to grow back to a decent length.

[ToraToraTora]

very few women can make short hair work, let alone none, your mum may have gone OTT with all the straightening etc but she's right long hair, well at least collar length, is better on women.