How To Cope After A Death

[nailit]

Mum died last Monday.
I feel a bit numb but functional, been to work today after a week off.
Inbetween times, trying to empty my mum's bungalow etc ready to hand keys back to the council. One of my sisters has been busy making all the funeral arrangements, sorting out finances, settling bills etc, ive been trying to sort out the practical stuff, furniture removal etc,
Other sister couldnt give a monkeys about anything except to cry a few crocodile tears at the site of her corpse...

And then the vultures arrive.
We want that, we want this...

Does my freekin head in.....
I hate human nature,

[-SharonA-]

Sorry you hear about this Nailit, but I think you will find this happens in most families. You need to be a little firm and tell family members all will be sorted.

[Theland]

I can't add anything to the wisdom and support in the posts above.
Take care.

[murraymints]

been there my friend... you know where I am..xx

[emmie]

i have been through two funerals, luckily didn't experience anything that you have gone through,
my sympathies are entirely with you. take care and look after yourself.

[david small]

I’ve been where you are nailit. Mother’s passing was long and drawn out. I’ve been to eight funerals and four of them tore me up. How to cope? You just do. One day at a time. Death is the price you pay for being alive.

[10ClarionSt]

Always sad when someone loses dear old mum. My sympaties Nailit.
I found it difficult when my sister died. Emptying her house seemed like I was throwing her life away, as everything in there meant something to her at one time.

It's just time that heals but it can be a slow process for some. Hope you manage it Nailit.

[burlyshirley]

It's very, very hard to lose a beloved Mum (and Dad). Mine have been gone now for four and five years respectively and there are still many days when it feels raw and I physically ache to look at them one more time and see Mum's lovely smile. I agree with Clarion about clearing out the house, I hated looking through all of Mum's personal things, I felt I was snooping amongst her belongings. Sadly, it's something we all have to go through at some point, but it doesn't make it any easier.

[pastafreak]

When my mum died, I was here in the UK...didn't make it back to NY in time to see her, as the passport office messed up.
After the funeral, I only had a day or 2 to go through some of her stuff with my brother. There was so much I wanted...she'd saved a LOT. I made my brother promise to save a few things...including her wedding dress and satin shoes from the 1930s. I never asked if he did. At the time I just wanted to be surrounded by what was left of her life.
I hope the divisions in your family can be healed. I'm sure they will, with time. Just be kind to yourself Nailit.

[naomi24]

I’ve been in a situation where the vultures have descended. I doubt most would agree with my solution but I told them to take it all. I sleep peacefully at night.

Take care of yourself, nailit. Treasure your happy, loving memories. x

[burlyshirley]

Luckily there was only me and my brother and we agreed on everything, he was very laid back about it all, which made it slightly easier for me.

You'll get there nailit, I promise.