Reconcile or Divorce

[nev2u]

Friends.. A young lady accquaintance of mine is facing a major domestic problem. She got married 15 months ago after the guy wooed her. She went to stay with his folks, (mother and dad) after marriage.Now the problem starts here. The boy is totally financially controlled by his parents (family business). And his mother is forever finding fault with the gal. Hard to believe, but the son has taken the mothers side against the wife. Anyway, theyre seperated for 4 months now. The guy hardly bothers about the wife and expects the girl to return and abide by his parents whims. The guy refuses to live seperately from his parents.
People!! What is my friend to do?? She's going just plain crazy. ANd i fear that she may go into severe depression. Could anyone help her out. id love some solutions!!

[angeldraws]

From the information you give I personally think she will be better off without him.....and the parents (It's not you is it??)

It is difficult to make a judgement tho' without knowing the persons involved - theres always two sides to a story.....

Noone has the right to control another human being....we should be free to make our own choices....I'm wondering how old this girl is and if she has the maturity to walk away from this relationship.........

[angeldraws]

oops forgot to say - try and find out the other side of the story as different people see things very differently......

[nev2u]

angeldraw.. I swear its not me.. My fren is about 27 years.. True, we should hear both sides.. But in such circumstances, what would you suggest. Frankly< i've told her to dump him and move on. Plus mind you, she's a very talented, educated, working and supporting herself, and a very pretty young lady too.

[raysparx1]

Ditch the d!ckhead,it won't change, no future in it,what respect can she have for him?

[Carakeel]

I'm afraid, even without hearing the other side, it would seem that your friend will never get the support she needs from her husband. He seems to me to be a typical mummy's boy. That is impossible to counter! As you say, your friend has so much going for her. I would suggest that, in a last ditch effort to turn things around, she tells her husband that she really cannot live in a house where she has no support. If he cannot have an opinion of his own and , when in agreement with her, back her in front of his mother, then there is no point in her staying in this marriage, as it is not a partnership as it should be. nev2u, you should continue supporting her by reminding her of her good points. She needs a good friend like you right now!