Covid And Family Cinflict

[Gypsyjazz]

Does anyone else have this worry? My daughter and I have completely different views about Covid. I disagree strongly with the lockdowns and restrictions. I regret having two vaccinations, and will not have the booster. This causes no end of arguments with my daughter, who has been totally brainwashed by the scaremongering and one sided media coverage. She is coming home for Christmas, and I am dreading any conflict. We are both strong minded. I don't know how I will keep a lid on my feelings for two weeks! The television will have to be put in the shed!

[Redhelen72]

I can understand your daughters point of view - if you feel that you are going to have arguments then don't meet up for christmas

[ladybirder]

Oooh can I be a fly on the wall at yours please?

[Bobbisox1]

Make it a point of order GJ that the C word has NOT to be discussed at Christmas

[barry1010]

Interesting that you believe it is your daughter that has been brainwashed - no doubt she says the same about you.

Tell her not to come, it really is as simple as that

[Stickybottle]

I am with Redhelen
If the both of you have such strong convictions then do not meet up

Or will Xmas sentimentality get the better of one of you and you will forget about it for a few days ?

[Hopkirk]

For the sake of family unity and a happy Christmas, just agree with everything she says.

[bobbinwales]

Very clever brainwashing by the media, they seem to have fooled almost all health professionals and scientists as well as all responsible goverments across the world. If she's happy to come then just avoid politics and covid in conversations. If she or you think there will be conflict then don't do it. Seems sad tho for a family to fall out over something like this, it's not as if people will change there minds once it's made up

[New Judge]

The biggest source of conflict in my experience is between the vaccinated and the unvaccinated. Mrs NJ and I have just hosted a long weekend for some relatives. We are usually eight up. One member of the family who usually joins us is unvaccinated (no medical reason - he's simply decided against it for reasons which I cannot be bothered to establish). Three of the others decided they would not attend if he did. They will not mix with anybody unvaccinated. I respect all their views (though I disagree with the refusnik - I think he's a pillock). So he had to be uninvited, which meant that his wife did not attend either. They are now at loggerheads with those who refused to join us if the refusnik did, though thankfully not with us.

[Ken4155]

Go on then, i'll ask the question. Why do you regret having had both vaccinations?

[ToraToraTora]

gawd elp us another THBer!

[Mozz71]

Who instigates the arguments? The way you say "I don't know how I will keep a lid on my feelings for two weeks" is almost as if you expect to be the one to start on her for being vaccinated? If that is the case, I find that baffling, as her vaccination is irrelevant to you. If it's the other way round, and she the one who starts the rows, then be proactive and set boundaries with her on covid conversations before she arrives. Even better, make itna covid-free space for the duration of the holiday.

[calmck]

My niece refuses to be vaccinated, 42 year old. However her father is immune compromised. She also has a SIL on chemo for a brain tumour and a young son. She is a school teacher but all staff and most parents are anti vax. Myself, daughter and partner are vaxed, with me getting booster Friday. Daughters partners kids are at boarding school in UK, here now on holiday. We have to be careful because partner and kids due to return to UK 12/26. Because of travel regs we cannot risk her mixing with us for 25. Either agree that Covid will not be mentioned or don't get together. Did you have side effects from the vaccine? I assume your daughter had her childhood vaccines. Whilst the Covid vax was developed quickly all vaccines were once "experimental" and are now an accepted part, by most people, as that's life get your kids vaccinated

[Mozz71]

Tora- THBer?

[Spungle]

Just thank God you have a daughter and she has a dad. This is the first Christmas without my Mum, who died on a hospital ward in January. No doubt thousands of others would give anything to be in your situation. Can't you have an adult conversation about Covid? You both have your points of view, and should be free to express them. It is doubtful either of you are likely to 'convert' the other to your way of thinking, but heck, life is too short for these types of arguments. It sounds like you already both know how each other feel about the subject anyway. I personally hate the Covid paranoia and the division it causes, but I am going to enjoy Christmas with my family regardless.

[Untitled]

it does not sound like it's your daughter that is brainwashed tbh.

i feel very sorry for people who have had family members taken over by misinformation... one finds the same thing with rabid qanoners, members of their family often feel that they are not themselves and don't know what to do.

your daughter is right and you are wrong quite frankly. you cannot be surprised that the people who care about you are horrified.

[ToraToraTora]

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