What Do I Do About Being A Third Wheel In Between My Friends?

[blu-e]

So recently I met with my childhood best friend (boy) after 12 years. Since we left school years ago, we had never seen each other. But turns out, he never forgot me and I didn't too.

He and I got to talk through my close friend (girl) who has been talking to him for about 4 days and they have grown so close that he says good morning to her when she's sleeping and also tells her what time he will come home like they are both married.

She had showed me a pic of him telling me that he's her crush and I didn't know he was the same guy I was best friends with till she asked me the primary school I went to. I felt so excited to finally talk to him and I actually think of him as a brother and nothing more...because my older brother doesn't stay at my house, I don't really have the feeling of a brother.

I was feeling disturbed now knowing that my friend was having a crush on him...and I wanted to get closer to him like we were before...but she and him have grown so close...I can't even find a way to get him to talk to me...it's always me who messages him first...

My friend kept telling me that he would always message her first because she is more important to him...and right in front of me...she was getting a "good morning" from him and both were talking while I looked at my phone just to see his "online" on his profile...

I acted like I don't care...but I needed him to be my emotional support and close friend but seeing them made me think it would never happen. I always wished...why can't he see how I feel...I waited for his message from that morning till night but he never did and I had to msg him...

He told me he has no crush on her...but today my friend forced me to ask him through chat if he likes her and he had said no...but after he knew she liked him...he said he was blushing...and then he told me to go sleep (since it was morning) so he could talk to my friend...

He had been feeling for her because she stayed up the whole night for him and he even told me "Who would stay up for someone you haven't seen before" and I replied "ME! I also stayed up with her" and he replied with a smiley face.

Before I left...I begged him not to forget me. I told him my childhood was my happiest and if he leaves me then I would cry. I already feel like a third wheel even though they both haven't started dating..

I'm hiding how much I don't like it...I painfully hoped for a no but he has feelings for her...I wish he found his childhood friend (me) more important than a girl he met 4 days ago...do you think I should leave them and stop interfering??

[JimF]

"do you think I should leave them and stop interfering??"

Yes. And maybe grow up a bit, you know? What do you think?

[pixie374]

For now. He'll let you know, if he wants to. She's new and it's been less than a week. Be patient.

[LadyCG]

It sounds like he's lapping up the attention from both of you. Walk away and leave them to it. If it's you he likes he will come and find you. If he's not bothered about you, we'll you've done yourself a favour.

[JanineQs]

"but I needed him to be my emotional support and close friend but seeing them made me think it would never happen."

Isn't this too bold of an expectation from a friend you hadn't met in 12 years?

People change. That's a long time to be apart. Maybe the person you thought he before had now completely changed?

I'd walk away too. The last thing I want would be to be involved in a love triangle.

[Cloverjo]

He’ll still be your friend. The crush could come and go in no time.

[ryanroy837]

don't think too much and leave him, people do change and it is 12 years since you hadn't met each other, how can you surely say he is exactly the same as he was before.

[Canary42]

/// he never forgot me and I didn't too ///

I'm so glad you didn't forget yourself either ;-)