I wanted to post on your thread but the answer box appears to have been removed.
gordie, I am so sorry to read that you have been treated like this. If you are the type to be upset then you will be upset. I think it is a long haul to change your attitude to such imbecilic behaviour, if indeed you want to. Why should you have to?
I think the link given by Toorak is an excellent idea to start from.