moving out

[xJx]

im 21 at the moment and im seeing this guy (emphasis on the seeing bit because although we are more or less a couple cuz we see ecah other constantly but still nothing has been made official). we used to joke about being rich and having our own mansion together but all today he has been emailing me different ads for properties that we can move into. he even said we should go for a few viewings. although i'd eventually love to think that me and him could have something more serious and i would definatly consider something more long-term with him i still feel really young and not ready to move out form my parents. how old were you guys when u moved out and got your own place? x

[RATTER15]

I was 20 but that got nothing to do with what you are doing, don't move out until you are ready, you don't want all those financial problems yet especially as you are not sure.

Stay at home until you are 100% sure

[makemesmile]

I was 21, but I shared with a friend for a bit. Didn't live with a guy until I was nearly 30. I was having too much fun partying and seeing friends/guys. Living with a guy can be wonderful, but you don't sound too certain to me. I'd wait a bit if I was you. You've loads of time to get serious. Enjoy the freedom for a bit. It's also (usually) a lot cheaper staying at your folks. Money is the easiest thing in the world to argue about, and being stuck at home 'cause you can't afford to go out now you've paid all your bills is well miserable!

[atolhurst]

I moved in with my bf at 20 (he's 8 years older than me) into his place. we bought our first place together this year - me 22, him 30.

to be honest though, what i did is academic; if you don't feel ready, then don't do it. i would also say that perhaps you might want to think about renting first; buying together brings with it lots of financial ties that are difficult to get to get out of if it doesn't work out. i found living with my bf in his place first (contributing to the bills but not getting involved in the mortgge - paying rent i guess) a good way to figure out whether we could live together.

relationships take on a different dimension when you live with someone; you have to deal with their bad habits, accept that they're going to hear you go to the bathroom and other non-glamouros things like that. if you rent together before you buy, if it doesn't work out it's a lot easier to get out of the arrangement.

[filthiestfis]

For christ's sake, dont move in with this guy until you have been going out with him for a long time i.e. a year, and you know him well enough!
Why would you want to move in with a virtual stranger? One step at a time I say.

[filthiestfis]

He sounds overly keen on you, moving in with someone should be considered after a lengthy period of relationship, in my opinion. In the meantime, by all means stay at his place some of the nights, and he can stay at yours, that way you have some breathing space!

[nat_84]

Im 21 and still living at home....:o(

Hope to move out soon though - trying to decide whether its sensible to move out with my boyfriend or not.....tricky decision...

[Rubyrose]

I was 20 when I moved out (am 22 now) and I had been with my boyfriend 4yrs. I was 21 when I moved back home and had split from him after 5yrs! (His choice)... at the end of the day you can never tell whats going to happen in a relationship whether you have been together 5yrs or 5 weeks. Don't waste time worrying about it. If you want to do it then do it. If it doesn't work out, its not the end of the world. Life is too short.

I don't regret moving out even though I had to move back... I had a great time and learnt a lot.
xx