Genuine Question Re Children Who Don’t Acknowledge Your Birthday/Xmas

[Smowball]

Genuine question as I’ve asked a few friends this and just wanted your opinions. I have 4 adult children - 3 boys and 1 girl. Youngest son and eldest son never ever forget - always buy me birthday presents(as in this week), cards, Xmas presents and cards etc. Middle son never ever buys me even a card, let alone a present, but bizarrely he messages me probably more than any of the others!! Daughter never acknowledges me up until this year when I sent her a long message with a few home truths (long story) and she actually sent me a card this week with kisses in lol.
But my question is……… every year I buy all 4 of mine Xmas presents etc,,,,,,, and hubby said why are you spending money on the ones that utterly blank you?? And I said I can’t treat any of them differently……. So what do do all do?? When you have children that acknowledge you and treat you, and you have ones that completely blank you??

[choux]

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/ChatterBank/Question1811524.html
Smow, I know I missed the day by just a few hours and you probably would have had more wishes if a popular poster had put up a thread, but 7 of us didn't miss you out :)

[Smowball]

Just seen it choux xxx

[Barsel]

Oh, I missed your birthday as well Smow. Sorry. Happy Belated. xx

[barry1010]

Resine, you seem to be very aware of this site and its members considering you joined today

[Barsel]

Barry, I didn't see that answer that was removed. Was it aimed at me?

[barry1010]

No, Barsel, it wasn't aimed at you.

[Barsel]

Thanks Barry.

[Smowball]

Thanku to everyone who said happy birthday xx really appreciated x

[nailit]

Expected at least a (1st) birthday card of/from my first grandchild...
Not to be !
No doubt Christmas will be the same.

[nailit]

//and hubby said why are you spending money on the ones that utterly blank you?//,,,,
Been there, done that.
I agree with hubby.

[david small]

I like to give both gifts and money to my four children. I do not like to receive anything except for a card from them all. It’s taken me years to convince them not to get me anything, yet, occasionally they sneak a little present my way.

[Barsel]

David, I actually prefer a card to a present, it's when you don't even get a card that upsets me.