Buying Xmas Presents For Adult Children.

[Smowball]

It’s been a sore point in this house all week. MrSmow and I don’t have any children together, but I have 4 - I had 4 when we met. They are all adults now. I buy them all Xmas presents every year, but only the youngest, Ben, buys us a present. The other 3 NEVER buy us a present. In fact 2 of them don’t even send us a Christmas card! Soooooooo MrSmow said this week enough is enough - stop buying them presents and just send them cards. I’m inclined to agree with him, but not sure how I would stop it without giving an explanation that’s going to alienate them.
Your thoughts?? Do you buy for your adult children?? Do they buy for you? xx

[calmck]

Sixteen is the cut off for nieces and nephews and their children. One stopped earlier 5 kids never received a thank you or gift from them for daughters kids.

[Smowball]

Calmck - yes I’m thinking saying this year just kids under 18, then that’s it! Spoke to MIL this week and for the first year EVER we have agreed to not buy each other anything. Instead, we are going to do each other a physical favour. She is going to come and stay the night to look after our cats while we go and have a night away, and we will do something for them x

[roopower]

We don't have many to buy for now so we do get presents for our daughter, son in law plus two young grandsons plus our son. Then there's only my sister's family and my father in law. We don't spend a fortune, just buy things they would like or I know they want.

[Maydup]

Whatever you decide Smow, don’t fall out with tour grown up children over it will you? If you think it will cause upset just keep sending them a little something.