My Mum Brings Things Up From The Past

[Treacle71]

I'm 51 and she's a young 79 year old. I've decided to start counselling to work on my poor self image/low self confidence. I told mum this and she said,"Do you know (a neighbour) has more confidence in her little finger than you have altogether". Mum also says no one will ever want to be my friend. She also reminded when I was 8 years of age and I stole a small kids pencil (the worst thing I've done all my life) and how "I've always been a nasty thing", when all I was a shy child. I wondered your thoughts please? She also says, "You can't even answer the door without having a panic attack". I feel so miserable. I can't do/say anything right. I agree I am quite a recluse, but I'm also just a plain and simple home-bird. Why keep bringing things up from 40 plus years ago? She says, "My chronic acid reflux is all your fault".

[murraymints]

Treacle my love I agree with everything above..you need to start putting yourself first and DO NOT allow yourself to be dragged down by this toxic relationship..time to dig in heels and make a stand ! xx

[emmie]

totally agree with all the above. go for it.

[Treacle71]

So true xx A lot to ponder over.