YOu were quite right to do everything you did. He is being really insensitive. Even if nothing was going on, the lady in question clearly wants his attention, and he is married- and it's not really appropriate. Yes he likes her and they have stuff in common, but it is you he is married to. He is just being flattered by her attention. Let him go. He needs to appreciate you, his wife, who has stood by and supported him. He will probably go to this woman now for sympathy and she will boost his ego by giving him attention. But really- what sort of relationship would they have if she sleeps during the day and seems to be as needy as he is?!Let them get on with it. It won't last.