I Miss The Carefree Days Of The 90’S

[Raidergal2022]

Whatever happened to carefree days?

People rarely spontaneously show up to peoples/relatives houses anymore. Kids don’t knock on their friends doors to ask if they are playing out.

In the 90’s when I was a kid friends would ‘call’ for me ie show up at my door to ask if I was going out. My relatives would just show up unannounced - which has its disadvantages but sometimes it was a nice surprise.

These days people and friends say that they do not like surprises and ask you to phone them before turning up. My friend goes one step further and prefers a text to arrange a time for a phone call.

Don’t get me wrong I do prefer knowing if someone is comming round but I do miss the old ways.

I brought this up with some collegues and one of them said that she wouldn’t want a friend just showing up at her house to visit as she might be having an episode of low mood

Fair enough, but in the 90’s these reasons were not really thought of you just turned up

I do miss the spontaneous carefree life

[Redhelen72]

You can still be spontaneous and carefree what’s stopping you?

[DTCwordfan]

His whip and reins?

[rowanwitch]

I hated it when people just turned up, I need time to prepare, tidy up, but something sweet in the oven. Used to keep cookie dough in the freezer. I was brought up to think it was bad manners, and never did it. My ex used to do it with his family all the time, I seemed to spend my time sending flowers to apologise.

[barry1010]

When I was a kid there was really no other option, I couldn't phone, text, email, Facetime to make arrangements. We didn't have a landline and nor did my friends

[jourdain2]

I miss the even more carefree days of the 50's. 60's and (to a large extent) the '70's. I don't really like the way things and people have gone.

[jourdain2]

cahakim No, you're wrong, of course there were the usual cares and domestic worries , but there was a lightness, a freedom, an easiness - certainly no fear of crime (doors left unlocked etc.). I walked half a mile to a phone-box to phone my mum once a week and we visited them every Sunday. None of this timetabled living that people seem to do nowadays.

[Captain2]

Careful who you talk to, jourdain.

[ichkeria]

In 30 years people will say they miss the carefree days of the 20s :-)

[Bobbisox1]

Growing up with two older sisters, I loved the 50s and my era the 60s, wasn’t that keen on the 70s but the 80s New Romantics were brilliant

[andres]

I would go back to the 50s and 60s in a flash.

[gingejbee]

Sorry, but if anyone shows up here unannounced - the door wouldn't get opened. I regard it as ill-mannered.

[barry1010]

Jourdain, phoning your mum once a week and visiting her every Sunday is a timetable