"You should be"

[isj032]

I have been told that I should be....
:Good at something in this case.
With the language used being: "you should be good at _ _by now". My immediate interpretation of this persons implied meaning was that i'm NOT good at_ _.
Anyone see this any other way? The perpetrator was male and revoked my reproach. How do you deal with this stuff respectfully?

[jno]

it's just possible he was saying you were good at it, if the emphasis was on the last two words: 'You're good at it, and so you should be by now' (meaning you've had plenty of time to learn it). As to how to deal with it: if he's your boss, just grin and bear it. If he's not, ignore it: his speech was not helpful or complimentary, and need not be taken to heart.