Am I A Masochist?

[Tom9348]

Hi, so I’m a 25 year old male, I’ve never had a girlfriend or even kissed a female, so obviously I’m a virgin. I do have a normal sex drive and am attracted to females, however, I’ve never had any experience with women at all. When I think of spending my life being a virgin and not ever having a partner there is a part of me that thinks it will be hard but then there’s this other side to me that feels this joy about it, like I’m getting mental gratification about the fact that I’m kind of punishing myself by making myself stay single and celibate even though my natural body wants it. I’m wondering if I’m a masochist?

[calmck]

How would you define masochist

[Tom9348]

Calmck- well I’m not a masochist in terms of I enjoy being physically hurt and humiliated etc, but the thought of being a single virgin for years to come gives me a buzz, even though it’s a kind of punishment

[calmck]

Have you not answered your own question then

[Tom9348]

Calmck- kind of, but just wondering if others thought I am too

[bednobs]

you are making yourself stay single how?

[Old_Geezer]

You just need a change of attitude. Go join a social group, get inolved in activities, take a dep breath and start smalltalk conversation with those of the female persuasion. When you've got to know them for a short time (not immediately) try asking one or two (not at the same time) if they'd like to go out for a drink sometime. See how things go, and don't expect success every time.

[rowanwitch]

No just a late developer, if you find the right partner it will work itself out.

[Tom9348]

Bednobs- by not getting into a relationship or having sex

[Tom9348]

Rowanwitch- so when you say I’m a late developer, would you say it’s rare for a 25 year old to have never kissed a female?

[bobbinwales]

your not alone.... theres someone here in a similar position
https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Question1775697.html
try not to dwell on it, just take life as it comes, and you will meet someone.... no point in trying to punish yourself

[Squitty]

Masochist - not unless you searched for 'bunch of oldies squabbling' to find this site.

[bednobs]

so does that mean you are turning people down?
or that no-one wants to be your GF?

[Tom9348]

Bednobs- well I’m not turning anyone down because let’s be honest, it’s extremely rare women proposition men, but I don’t attempt to meet women at all