Advice On A Guy..should I Wait Until He’s Ready?

[Destinyrose1979]

I was widowed 2 1/2 years ago but I knew a guy to talk to before this (he’s a delivery driver) we always chatted at the door. Since my husband passed we talked more and became a bit more than friends. He’s going through a break up (not married) and has been waiting ages for the house to sell. He said he didn’t want to start anything with me until everything was sorted out but he showed so many signs that he really liked me. I recently bumped into a guy i used to know before my husband we were just friends as worked together and said he could pop round for coffee. He came round and he kissed me. I did like him back in the day and he still is a nice guy. I saw my driver guy the other day just to talk to and thought I’d mention this other guy as wanted to know where we were going. He did look kinda disappointed but told me to go for it as he didn’t know how long this house sale etc is going to take and he just wants me to be happy. He said “well you never know..in time you might get fed up of him and I might’ve got everything sorted”.
Do you think that was his way of saying he does want to be with me and hopes I don’t go with this other guy but at the same time he doesn’t expect me to wait around for him? Obviously I would wait for him as I really do like him. He ticks all the boxes and basically I’ve been married, never thought I would want anyone else after my husband and I’d probably live happily without anyone else but he’s made a mark on me, a connection I’ve never had with anyone else. I don’t think I’d be happy with this other guy so I don’t think anything will come of it. How can I tell my driver guy that I’m happy to wait for him without him thinking I’m just saying it and him thinking I’m missing out on being happy?
Any advice would be great thank you.

[Bobbisox1]

I think you know the answer but I don’t understand the selling the house bit DR? Surely you and he could still have a relationship as well as him waiting to sell his house?

[Geoffrey13]

Just tell him you're happy to wait - surely whether he thinks you're just saying it or not will be a good pointer to his genuineness.

[Moorea7]

Hi Destiny - your destiny is in your hands!
I wouldn't even start to advise you, especially where men are involved!

[Smowball]

Is your delivery guy still living with the woman he’s breaking up with??…

[Old_Geezer]

Sounds like your delivery guy is not yet ready to commit although the idea appeals to him, and he's decided not to make your decision for you but leave it up to what you want. Better to have 2 interested than none. But surely, as a woman, you've encountered that sort of situation numerous times in the past, where you're spoilt for choice of relationship and need to decide which scenario to try.

[Destinyrose1979]

Snowball..yes he’s still living there until the house sells, he said before he doesn’t want anything stopping him getting what’s his which i totally understand. She cheated on him so understandably he’s just dubious that she could make things very difficult for him if she knew he was seeing someone. She sounds that kind of person.

[elliemay1]

I wouldn't make any decisions as yet, just continue on with your life as you have been doing, maybe get out and about and meet others, if he's for you it'll work out in the end