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[angel_wings]

Hi there.
I havent used this before and was hoping i may be able to get some advice:
I went out on the weekend round to a friends house. he is an old friend who I have known for about 6 or 7 years and I once had a brief relationship with him. We have always remained friends and although we hardly see one another we often stay in contact through text or phone. Anyway, He invited me round on Saturday night and I turned up armed with vodka as we had already made plans to have a few drinks and catch up.
However, The day after I found out that I apprently made two calls to another friend of mine and sounded completely 'out of it'. This may not sound strange as first but it takes me quite alot to get drunk and also, this call was made just an HOUR after I had got to my friends house.
The other problem is, I have no memory of the night in question and the oly thing I do remember is arriving there and then leaving.. the next morning. Now I know that 'something' happened between us but I do not for one minute think I protested against this. Im just concerend about having no memory of the night whatsoever. I have tried to call and text this friend of mine since but it seems asthough he is ignoring me which he doesnt usually do.
I have since found out that he has a girlfriend which I had no idea about and now Im really starting to panic about what happened and how exactly I came to have no memory of the night at all. Any ideas???

[angel_wings]

Thankyou all again.
I had to get the MAP yesterday as I was so worried about that side of things. I will also be going to the doctors to get tested for anything else.
I feel humilated at the moment and am dreading having to bump into him again. he is obviously not going to answer my calls and so I think it is because he know that I realise what he has (may have) done.
I am taking a very big lesson from all this and my choice not to take the matter further is nothing to do with being a strong woman. I just seem to bottle things up and although that is not a good thing I would prefer to do that than have to talk to anyone about it. I feel I was a complete idiot for putting myself in that situation but I would never in a million years think that my friend could have done such a thing.
Thanks again to you all... Your so lovely!!!!

xx

[redcrx]

sorry angel_wings, I know you say you dont want to report it but if theres any possibility that this man could use such a drug on any other unsuspecting women then please see if you can bring yourself to report it.

[redcrx]

and you were NOT an idiot, this guy was a friend and trusted. hes the idiot!!!!

[lilyfrog]

I would keep persisting to contact him, and make sure that he knows that you are aware of what he did to you. That might scare him off doing this someone else. He may have chosen you as a test victim for something he has just got hold of and as it worked so well he could be out on the town this weekend!

Oh and tell his girlfriend too!

[fee-is-me]

Ditto what the others have said.

You WERE NOT stupid. He was your friend and you trusted him.

That makes HIM stupid.

I totally understand your desire to keep things bottled up - it's the way i deal with things too, usually - but this affects more than just you.

If he is left to think that he got away with it, he WILL do it again.

[raysparx1]

Hi angel,

as the others have said you aren't stupid, you have been betrayed by someone you trusted,that hurts, don't bottle it up inside, rant at me if you want to,but hiding your feelings away is not good for you, take care xx

[dizydosydoll]

Hi

Yes you should go and get tested.

At least you know you cant trust this so called friend there is a drug called ghb that can wipe you out and you wouldnt recall what happened to you and its clear and has no taste apperantly so he could of used that.
The thing is you never really know somebody and if he knows that you may of been up for fun after a few drinks maybe he used the drugs to do more than just the obvious fun stuff, but then again it could be totally inocent. Like I said you never really know someone so you should always be on ypu

[Eve]

Hey honey,

You could really do with speaking to someone to get some advice.

How about going to a well woman clinic to get checked out to make sure that if he did do anything to you that you can try and stop any other problems coming from it such as pregnancy or STI.

Also consider logging it with the police so that if he has done this to someone else it may help them too and stop him from doing it to anyone else.

Some useful sites for you...

http://www.met.police.uk/sapphire/advice.htm

http://www.bbc.co.uk/crime/support/rape.shtml (has loads of useful phone line numbers on this one).

http://www.met.police.uk/sapphire/advice.htm

Take care honey,

xxx

[Eve]

Sorry, first link should have been this...

http://www.roofie.com/main.htm