Spending Money On Children’s Partners!?

[Smowball]

Random post, but here goes! Ok, I was chatting to my friend yesterday about Christmas and she said that she felt bad for spending less on her son this year, now that her daughter had a partner. I didn't understand what she meant so asked her to explain. So, her boy is 15, and her daughter is 24 & has a partner of 2 years. They are renting a flat, and are looking to buy. She said that (let's not get into the insane amount she spends - that's another post!!) just say she spends £300 each on her son and her daughter (I've just made that amount up), because her daughter now has a long term partner she now looks on him as her son, and splits the £300 between the daughter and her partner. And so coz daughter is now only getting £150 she can now only spend £150 on her son! I said that didn't make sense, why should her boy miss out, and she really didn't understand what I was saying. I said why would you treat a guy who you've known 2 years like your son who you've had his entire life!? What do you think?? Does anyone else do this? 

[Redhelen72]

I think its lovely that someone thinks so highly of their 'inlaw' that they would spend money on them.

I really thought we had turned a corner as a few days before my birthday my MIL phoned the husband and asked him to buy me flowers or a plant - we had great fun chosing one and it meant so much to me but then......

So really its up to your friend how she chooses to spend her money - although you may wish to point out to her that Christmas will now be considerably cheaper for her.

[jno]

in theory, if she's got a boyfriend, it's his job to give her presents, so she needn't be on her mother's list at all. In reality I can understand a mother wanting to help out her daughter, but not at her son's expense.

[youngmafbog]

No Xmas presents for over 18 in our house, kids only.

Birthdays only small novelty gifts as everyone can afford to buy what they need whenever.  In laws treated no differently, in our house all are considered 'family'.

[Countrylover]

in theory, if she's got a boyfriend, it's his job to give her presents, so she needn't be on her mother's list at all. 

 

I don't quite understand that jno.  Are there rules about who should give who presents.  My parents gave me presents regardless of whether I had a partner or not.  You give presents to whoever you like.

[Smowball]

I still buy all mine presents lol