Marriage? Why?

[nailedit]

Not been funny to anyone thats married, each to their own kind of thing, but I have never understood the concept of marriage.

 

[Omg21]

Dave50, I knew a couple who lived together for years and then decided to get married. A year later they split up and divorced. So for them, it did seem to spoil things.  Even they weren't sure why it happened.  Although I suspect that they thought marriage might solve any problems they already had.

[douglas9401]

Just like the Band-Aid baby.

[barry1010]

Being married makes us both happier than living together. We had a very simple wedding and small reception. We got married for the commitment to each other for the rest of our lives, to create a unit,  not for a glitzy wedding day.

[10ClarionSt]

I know someone who's been married 5 times. She just loves wedding cake!😄 

[rowanwitch]

It's sometimes a subtle thing... Partly making that public statement of commitment, partly because you want to make the statement to the other that they are truly the one.  I married youngish, it wasn't a total disaster but it was for practical reasons as he was a residential social worker and we had a flat as part of the home it seemed needful. The job was over in a couple of years, and so were we pretty much but we stayed together another nine years until he met Peter....

Marriage wasn't an option when I lived with my next (female) partner.   Civil partnerships were just becoming a 'thing'....

Then I met Redman... I proposed to him after one date! I knew overwhelmingly that I wanted to marry him. ( we had a minor glitch as I untangled from partner 2) The reasons.... I loved him.... He was frightened by the age gap, and I knew it would be the best way of telling him I was in for  whatever came along. Even knowing he had lung cancer before we got married (I found out about 8 days before but he couldn't read xrays and I wasn't going to tell him) didn't change a thing.

[barry1010]

That's lovely, rowan 

[Ken4155]

When it was my turn to say "I do", i hesitated. Then a nudge from behind from my father-in-law's double-barrel shotgun pursuaded me to speak.

[bhg481]

Ken - I assume that was BEFORE your army training for NI or you might have reacted differently to a shotgun in your back.

[dave50]

It doesn't have to cost a lot either. My wife and I popped down to the registry office with our kids and just got married 23 years ago, cost us 40 quid I think then went back home for a party. Living happily ever after.

[barry1010]

Our church wedding was very simple and inexpensive, too

[andres]

Met when I was 16,engaged at 17 and married at 19yrs. That was 68 years ago . Sadly he died a few months ago. Ups and downs just like most couples. Complete opposites . You just get on with things and get through the difficult times. 

[jourdain2]

dave50 no, it doesn't have to cost a lot. We got married in Malton Reg. Office. Travelled from France in January, hired a holiday cottage dead cheaply to fulfil residence requirements.  A dear friend lent her farmhouse.  She and I did the catering and just family and a very few close friends atended.  It was February, it snowed, the hairdresser's car got stuck so I washed it myself and she tramped up the hill to blow-dry it.  We edged through the snow with a friendly farmer's tractor on the end of a phone in case we got stuck and had to arrive via him..... it was wonderful!!  

Cost for the whole lot, including cottage hire, travelling, fees and catering - under £1,000.  I did have a shopping spree in York to but an outfit etc - but that all came in at under £200.

A happy day & we're still here.  :)