My Sons Mother In Law

[nailedit]

My sons partners mother (basically mother in law) died yesterday. She was only 51.

They all went on holiday together to Spain 2 month ago while she was relativly well (inc. my grandaughter)

Cant wrap my head around why some people die so young?  no one ever said that life was going to be fair.

 

[Patsy33]

Sorry to hear this, Nailedit. It really hits you, doesn't it?  She was much too young to die. My condolences to your DiL & Son & Family. x

 

[237SJ]

Sorry to hear that.  Life isn't fair.  Some bad people (Jimmy Savile) etc live long lives while the good die young. You just have to make the most of the life you have and live it to the full because life can be short.

[nailedit]

Been over there today

(they live in Crewe, I live in Stoke) Dont think its really hit her yet. I know that it was a day or two after losing my mum 3 yrs ago when it really hit me.

I just dont get the injustice of it all. She was only 51 and absolutely lived for her (our) grandaughter.

Dont ever tell me that there is a God.

How i hate that bs...

[Hazlinny]

Such sad news from you, Nailedit.   My sympathy goes out to you all. x

[237SJ]

It's nothing to do with God.  It's just the way life is.

[jno]

was this something sudden or had she been ill? It's some help, not a lot, if you can prepare yourself.

[Cloverjo]

It's horribly sad. Very young to die so suddenly. Best wishes to you and your family. 

[nailedit]

Whichever you try to spin it, life is just toss & gross.

Been viewing lions eating dears and crocs eating zebras.

bit like AB politics...

[nailedit]

I would just love sove religeous ABer comment on here?

But they wont...

[237SJ]

Why are you so bothered by religion?  Just live your life, religion has nothing to do with it.

[rockyracoon]

That's very sad. Awful for you DIL and granddaughter.

[douglas9401]

And we've arrived...

[JinnyJoan]

Nailed  -   very sorry to hear of your lovely DIL but it has happened to the majority of people I know.  My SIL died at 49 her son at 15 and her niece at 3 - that was one family alone.

Another couple lost their their only 2 children they had a boy of 30 and a girl of 32 within 12 weeks.  The girl committed suicide and the boy banged his head on the ground and unfortunately it goes on.

Death is very harrowing and nothing but nothing prepared any of us.  

 

[Peter Pedant]

I am sorry Nailed it - the answer is that we dont havve the slightest idea. BUT the best determinant of an age of death is..... the average of the parents death age

the others - ht et food etc are much less predictive

[haras2]

So very sad to hear your news Nailedit.

Sadly, friends and family dying far too young is something many people "can't wrap their head around". It's going to be so hard for your grand daughter, I know this because my two grand daughters lost their mother when they  less than 10 years old...

[Gill1941]

So sorry to hear this nailedit.

Am in similar position. My son's youngest stepson died last week. Only 26 and found dead in bed in morning. Nothing showed up from PM yet.

Absolutely disbelieving still. Thinking of him all the time. Such a lovely lad. There is no god or justice in this world. They say only the good die young.

[FoxLee2]

haras2 - nailedit's granddaughter lost her grandmother not her mother.  I think the baby is still very young so may grow up not having any memory of her grandmother which in itself is very sad.  There are no words to comfort losing someone at such a young age.

[Peter Pedant]

oh the standard religious view is:

God can do nothing do stop it.

Unsatisfactory explanation: it is  Gods will and we can  never know his will ( or else we wd  be God) - and it meshes in with Free will - we cdnt have Free will if God controlled everything - we have free will ergo....

I found the Metaphysical Poets 1680-1700 useful for early death. They wrote on early death. One wondered why God wd allow a fully developed baby to be born dead ( = stillbirth) - clearly he didnt know....

someone asked for a religious view on a Sunday

[Rosetta]

At times life is just so unfair. I also found it difficult to get my head round my sons sudden death, aged 43yrs , at the end of january this year, it took weeks for it to sink in. 

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family

[10ClarionSt]

There's no justice, Nailedit. I posted this last Monday.

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/ChatterBank/Question1873815.html