Fuming

[barry1010]

A new member of the adult social care has been to see my oldster. (I'm sure they only come to make sure they are still alive and not battered black and blue)

'How are you?' she asked him. 'I'm doolally tap' he told her. He is in a good mood today.

She told him he can't say that, that's not a word she uses. She made an issue of it until I put my foot down. He is now confused and upset.

As I saw her out I told her that it is a phrase that he grew up with, understands the meaning of and doesn't frighten him. People usually laugh when he says it. I reminded her that tolerance and understanding should be extended to older people, too. That he can't be expected to keep up with modern mores and allowances must be made.

She's gone off in a huff. I dread to think how she would have reacted if he were in a bad mood or having an 'episode'.

Square peg, round hole came to mind.

 

 

[MargoTester]

My Mum was always using the phrase doolally tup (tup meaning daft or stupid in South Wales) . It was never meant in a derogatory way

[Vagus]

That's appalling Barry, I think I'd have asked her to leave. She definitely needs reporting to her superior, and probably isn't suited to the job.

I do so hope your oldster has settled down now, there's no excuse for him to be spoken to like that x

[jourdain2]

Generation gap has a lot to answer for.

Having huge problems with new neighbour - same sort of thing.

[barry1010]

This woman is in her 50s, not an idealistic youngster 

[Bazile]

Who is the oldster ?

[ToraToraTora]

22:07 even worse, they have embraced the neo fascism with enthusiasm and like nothing more than to show off their new found trobbery.

[pastafreak]

Oh lordy! My late, ex MIL used that saying all the time. Sometimes when I was being a bit dopey, it was thrown in my direction. But I always thought she said 'tat' not tap.

[pastafreak]

Ps...she came from the north...Cumbria I think.

[Canary42]

She's for too uptight to be in Social Care. As you quite rightly say, square peg in round hole.

[douglas9401]

If she comes back just tell her to *** off. 

[Old_Geezer]

What is it about doolally tap that the woke is moaning about now ?

[barry1010]

Pasta, the  British Army sanatorium I referred to earlier was in the Indian town of Deolali and tap was the local word for malaria.  I think it was a nationwide expression after the war, I'm sure it cropped up several times in the radio series The Army Game. 

Apparently cabinet ministers have called Joe Biden 'doolally'.

Anyway, I have sent a polite email expressing my disappointment and requested that this lady be taken off my oldsters team and suggested she has further training.  I also thanked them for the overall support we get and the kindness we receive from other staff members.

[barry1010]

Apparently, he is to use correct terms and not insulting words.  I don't know who he was insulting whilst describing himself, he finds the word 'Alzheimers' distressing.  Doolally tap doesn't sound so serious, probably his mother said it to him when he was little, with affection or exasperation.

 

[Canary42]

I think your oldster should take up Douglas's suggestion - the reaction would be worth recording for YouTube 😁😁

[naomi24]

Barry, she's not employed to teach or preach.  I would tell her in no uncertain terms to take a hike.  I really would.  Arrogant moo!

[pastafreak]

A handbook is needed...'Educating Those of Great Age in That Which Offends The Modern Woke'...I bet your oldster would have choice words for that. 😂

Meanwhile those in social care need sensitivity and commonsense training.