Hi Wizzer (I still don't know who you are but never mind!) This sounds really good and I suspect my interpretation last night was not far off the mark, everything I said then still stands - although what she said was very hurtful to you please take it with a pinch of salt, it sounds very much like 'rantings of a frustrated and stressed woman' not something you should take as an ultimate truth. The fact she has thought things through and wants to talk is a big positive sign. I truly believe you are going through a relationship 'readjustment' not a break up.
Big Hugs to you - don't give up
XXX