Couded judgement?

[tatyanap]

I have a boyfriend, he has always treated me like ****, and used to abuse me and just a few months ago stopped abusing me. We have lived together for 5 years. Since he never wanted to go out with me outside our apartment, , I have been going out by my self to meet people to socialize with since for over a year now. I have found that men a women treat me at least 75% better than the guy I live with. Recently for two months Ive been seeing this new guy in total of six times, and every time we both were drinking alcohol. This last time he has asked me to be his girlfriend and to break up with the guy that I live with. We were kissing that night and he told me that he loved me in total of 3 times that night. Was he saying all of that just to get into my pants? Then when I told him that I didnt want to loose him over sex, he said that he had to leave. I think when I told him that, he had realized that I wasnt going to have sex with him, and had to leave right then.

[vehelpfulguy]

You say about your boyfriend "he has always treated me like ****"

What you should say is "I let him treat me like ****"

Nobody has to put up with that so he only continues to do it because you let him continue to do it.

I am afraid you sound very lacking in confidence and unsure of yourself.

Anyway, he is not your boyfriend. A boyfriend does not treat a person like that, plus refuse to be seen in public with them.

He sounds rather nasty and is just using you (probably just for companionship and sex).

I would get out while you can, but be careful because he could turn nasty.

[WendyS]

You do seem to have an unfortunately habit of picking men who only seem to want you for your body and don' really value you. . Why don't you give yourself a break, split up with your current partner who obviously isn't right for you and try living on your own, and valueing yourself for who you are. You don't always have to have a man around you. Have the courage to set your own standards of behaviour and don't allow yourself to be morally blackmailed by other people if you don't like their standards of behaviour. Once you respect yourself more, I suspect you will gain more self confidence. But go easy on the alcohol. Too much of it will probably affect your judgement and cause you to get involved in a way which you might later regret.

[w.h.y.?]

i know where your comming from,and its so nice to hear those words from someone when you have nothing but s*** for a period of time,and good on you for not giving in to him.your proberly better of to forget them both and just enjoy finding yourself for a few months,you'll only find love when you're able to love yourself!!!