This ones a hard one because some people don't make great parents and one of my pet hates is parents who go on about how perfect their kids are, my brother in law is always doing this regarding my nephew and niece and although i love the kids they are a pair of spoilt brats as they get everything they want but then their dad can afford it. I think in a way by him going on this way h's pushing me to feel resentful towards the kids because i'm not being allowed to think my own opinion. On the other hand my 3 year old son is a loving boy but hyperactive and i make no secret of it to outsiders, everytime i'm out with him he constantly whinges and i get alot of stares and dirty looks from people, if they say anything i tell them he has behavioural problems and they soon go away. I'm a single mum and bringing up my son with his behaviour is a strain but i believe i'm doing the best i can for him. There are alot of times that i have to give in to his screaming and whinging as it causes great embarassment in the shops etc and i don't enjoy being stared at or spoken to by strangers in a patronising way as if i don't know how to control or parent my own child, or stupid comments like, ("he's tired that's all") As if they knew what the problem is better than i do.
I don't think it's anyone's right to tell anyone that they are'nt allowed to have kids either, everyone's idea of an ideal upbringing vary's, obviously no-one wants their kids to grow up doing drugs or commiting crimes and slapped with an Asbo but no matter how well you think you're raising them, they inevitably have a mind of their own and will choose their friends and if they do these things then you can't always blame the parents.
I fell pregnant at 24 and i was in a relationship. I thought that was young, i was'nt ready for a child. In fact until i gave birth i did'nt have that maternal feeling that were meant to feel. It felt natural though and i think i even 'grew' up