Getting back together

[Headless Rat]

From experience, can a relationship get back to the way it was before the breakup if both people are still really into each other?Can the same chemistry still exist?I ask this because bcoz i broke up with my boyfriend (of over a year) but wanna get back with him now. Im as sure as I can be that he still feels strongly about me, but what I wonder is, will the same chemistry be there?Would he not be likely to become more closed off and protective of himself the second time round bcoz I was the one to break things off?Would it be likely that he'd be scared for a long time to get back close to me in case I do the same thing again?Thanks

[Suzyboo]

Why did you finish it?

[raysparx1]

Hi Headless Rat,

I can answer this one from experience, I was going out with my then girlfriend for 5 years,she was the one that wanted to break up, I was so hurt,I swore then that I would never be in that position again, after a year she kept phoning me, I told her to p1ss off and leave me alone,I still loved her but I also hated her, she kept on ringing and in the end I agreed to meet,purely to tell her face to face where to go,but when we met I knew I couldn't do that, I loved her,we started going out again and within 3 months we were married,we have now been married 35 years,so yes it can work, I have left quite a lot of details out,to try and keep my answer as short as possible, good luck,hope it works for you as well, ray,

But I do believe "What will be,will be.

[nat_84]

Im in the same situation as you headless rat in terms of just about everything you said.

I reckon me and my boyfriend could get back into a happy relationship again aslong as niether of us have slept with anyone else since...

I mean, would you really wanna get back with im knowing that he's been with another girl? and vice versa...

[Sasha13]

Just to give a flipside to raysparx1 - I got back together with a bloke after he finished it and broke my heart - the second time around everything was great for a week, he was talking long term plans etc. then out of the blue he finished it again. Are you sure you want to get back with your bloke for the right reasons, or is it just that he seems to be ok without you?? You have to be VERY sure that you feel strongly about him. Think about all the reasons that you broke up with him the first time - have those reasons gone away all of a sudden? Because if not, chances are, you'll hurt him again.