another question!!!

[lynneylou]

how do i pick the moment to have 'that kind of chat' with her and can you recom any gd sex ed bks for a 13 year old that dont come across as its the norm and acceptable at a young age???

[HJT40]

Me again! My daughter has an Usborne book about growing up and it goes in to feelings as well and what physically happens, so it is quite good. My daughter is 12 and had started her periods, so I have reached that stage too. But I guess in the end it would be good coming from you as her mum. You can best explain that her body is precious and beautiful and ask her how she feels about her own body and may be what advice she would give one of her friends in that situation. After all how would she feel about the whole school seeing her and what would she think the boys would expect next? Hopefully she will be able to answer her own questions, something I have only just come to grips with myself at 41! I am only throwing ideas in to the air, but sometimes one sounds like a start and go from there. I think you have given me advice in the past and I hope I can return the favour.

x

[bednobs]

sorry but at 13 she could probably tell you it all already!

[ganesh]

My daughter once told me (at 15) that she was the only virgin in the class,and it didn't surprise me.
I would agree with bedknobs that 13 year old girls know quite a bit,certainly about the physical side,and they are much more forward than boys these days.
She will have had all that sort of text book information at school but it's up to you to warn her that she isn't ready emotionally for sex . Most daughters don't like talking about it to parents ,but I'm sure the subject comes up when you see something on TV that's connected. Most soaps have a lot of sex talk nowadays and maybe that's the time to chat about relationships etc.
If we still have the largest under-age pregnancy rate in the world then all the talk about HIV and STIs obviously isn't enough to educate our kids.

[ianess]

With so much information available especially through the internet and mobile phones are you sure that she doesn't know the whole story already?
At the age of 13 she probably knows as much as you.

[l15a27]

yes hey at 13 i tried to have that talk with my daughter, she laughed and said mum stop its killing me i think i know more than you....... i could have died
lol

[novascotia]

I am considering having this chat with my two eldest kids - he is nearly 9 and she is 7. The kids round here seem to be very wise to matters, and I would rather they have a more realistic take on things. Do you think they are too young? and I would like to echo lynneylou's question - how do you pick the moment, and are there any good books??

[ganesh]

Yes,I do think they are too young,just answer questions as they come up. Your daughter won't need to know about periods for a couple of years yet,anyway.

[ganesh]

That was relating to novascotias comment by the way!!