scared mum

[little coojy]

help
my 16 yr old daughter is reguley acceptting lifts home from a married man who delivers fast food near where she works, she tells me she caught the bus home only for me to find out later she was with him,
i also read her txt messages (i know i shouldn't but worry got the better of me)
there were 2 messages on there from 2 people she works with telling her to get the morning after pill after her xmas party (it was at a hotel and they all slept there) i asked her about it calmly but she says it was a wind up, i asked her if she thought it might be a good idea to go on the pill in case something does happen even if not planned but she says she doesn't need to as she is not even thinking about having sex and would tell me if she was, am i being over protective or am i right to be so worried?

[missjef]

I think you are right to be worried, though i'm not sure what you can do about since you have already tried to talk about it with her.

What is a married man doing giving lifts home to a 16 year old girl for?! Have you asked her about him, how she knows him and such like?

I think you did the right thing by talking to her, and also by asking her if she need's to go onto the pill, as she will see that you are not wanting to 'have a go' at her, and you just want to know that she will be safe.
Though reading her texts may mean that she feel's like she can't trust you, as i know that if my mum read my texts i would hate it and felt like my privacy had been intruded on, and would keep things more private from then on.

[tradey]

i was in the same boat few months back,my 17yr old kept getting calls offers of lifts prezzies from her 32yr old boss i wasnt too pleased as you can imagine,well it got that bad he was calling her everyday if she wasnt in work to see what she was doing,hes even called at our home with things for her,it was getting me really scarred it was like he was storking her,i went into her work one day when she wasnt in and had a good chat with him,told him to stay away or ill be phoning the police,it got that bad people at her work were being funny with her,so i went in again told the higher boss and he wasnt pleased either in the end the feela left thankgod,she still gets the odd call but she just ignores it.i think you did the right think reading her messages id ahve done the same,shes lying to you as well saying she got the bus home,also i would put her on the pill.if things carry on with this man whos married id have a word with him find out whats going on.good luck hun xx

[little coojy]

thanks for your answers

the man has been spoken to and hopefully things will change.
a friend of the ours is a respected person in this mans religon and has had a word with him, fingers crossed.

[tradey]

good you cant let this go on your daughter may think you being a pain but she would do the same if she was in your boat take care and good luck little coojy

[little coojy]

thanks hope things stay good with you too