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Hi Dot, Yeah there was a military connection (Queen's own Hussars) but what happened was Margaret's husband (James) died whilst they were still in India about 1882, she was sent back to Ireland with the kiddies (8,4 and another one, age unknown) where she was destitute, so put the eldest lad into the Royal Hibernian School, a sort of orphanage for sons of deceased soldiers in Dublin and the 4 year old girl Agnes into a convent. She then went to the US allegedly firstly in about 1882 ( can't find her there then either) and then having made some money for herself came back for her children 10 years later. Agnes went back with her to the US and William, the lad, went to India with the army. He and his mother and sister never saw one another again and I have literally hundreds of broken hearted letters from her in her old age sent to him apologising for not having been able to support them and wishing she could see him again before she died, which she never did.
I've had a look for anything I can think of that may be confused with Doughty (Dody, o'Doherty, Doherty, Daughtye, you name it) but I've got a big fat blank and these two are my pet peeves as you might imagine.
Help me Dot!!! Lol.