Help - man advise please!!!!!

[starry eyes]

Last year i was kind of seeing this guy, but whenever he was drunk he was like a different person, and not for the better! As we were not 'officially' a couple, he would still sleep with other girls, eventually i got sick of it, and ended it. Months down the line, he is textin me again. He seems genuine enough but i dont want him to make a fool of me. I do believe that he does really like me still, (he has also told me this aswell) but im not sure what to do. After the way he was last time, my friends tell me to ignore him, but he is genuinlly a nice guy and i think i do still like him. Im meeting him tonight so we shall see what happens. Any advise on what i should do? Should i give him a chance?

[JackDanielsU]

If hes quit drinking (well at least cut down so he doesnt get hammered) then maybe a "last chance date" is worth a go.

If hes still the same kind of man you remember,,,getting drunk and going off after other girls, then a big no-no.

just make sure he knows you're calling the shots

[MiniN]

honestly, computer says NOOOOO.

you havent mentioned in your question that you like this guy or anything so i'm guessing that he probably isnt going to be the love of your life.

plus why would he not sleep around this time if he got away with it last time?

move on sister! there's better men out there than this one!

[starry eyes]

Thanks. Well, this time im gonna make sure he knows that im calling the shots. I knw that he would never sleep aroun if we were a proper couple so im gonna say to him (when i get the guts) that its either all or nothin. were either together, or were not. To be honest i know he wants to be with me, so if he likes me that much then he'l understand that im wearing the trousers, and at the end of the day, if it dont work out, il end it. I do like him alot, im just not sure how much!! Thanks for your advise x

[jno]

I think you're the wrong way round here. You say he wouldn't sleep around if you were a proper couple. But really you stop sleeping around first because you know you've found Ms Right or Mr Right, and that's how you become a proper couple.

Genuinely nice guys do not behave as yours has, with other women or with drink. I'd say no; let him go and move on.

[angel-cake]

You want to see him (and are probably with him now!) so it seems it is something you need to do. I wouldnt go with the "i want us to be a proper couple" line, i would act really cool, imply you are dating other people, and make him come running. Honestly, if he is that into you he will definitely chase you :-D

Only you know if he worth the chance a second time round.

[yummymum]

Surely even if you are just sleeping with someone you should at least respect that person enough not to keep sleeping with others?

[starry eyes]

Yeah your all right.!!!!! But its hard, i really like him. Went to his last night and we just hung out, it was fun, il just see what happens with him, but i will not let him mess me about again.