Marriage

[KanterClan]

who pays for what in the marital home

[smudge]

We have been married for many years & in that time we have 'jointly' bought & paid for our home & contents. It's all about sharing & caring.

[Wisebird]

I can't imagine living with anyone in a permanent relationship and having to spend time working out who pays for what and who owns what. I agree entirely with Smudge. However, We have been married for 35 years and I am totally in charge of the finances!! This is only because he's useless at paying bills and is more free and easy than me with money. We do discuss everything though.

[tracymort]

Well you don't really think like that (well i don't), our money is our money! doesn't matter who pays for what as long as it's paid.

[smudge]

Snap Anniekon!

[DOB]

All monies earned by both spouses should be owned by each spouse equally. I would hope that the day is gone when a man thinks that because he earns more (obviously this can occur the other way - i'm just using this as an example albeit a more likely one) doesn't mean he decides what the money gets spent on. If this happens, the women will find herself virtually begging him for money if and when they decide to have children and she can't work for 4-6 months. If you are not already married KanterClan, I think you and your partner need to sort this issue out very soon as money arguements are one of most common (if not THE most) among married couples.

[Wisebird]

Don't think you quite understood what I meant Tracy. We share all our finances and our financial decisions and everything is jointly owned. It's just that he's so useless at doing the actual paying and admin, that I do all of this. He doesn't even know what we have in the bank, etc, whereas I can tell you right down to the last penny!

[tracymort]

oh right sorry! Well we are both useless with money but as i am asahm i do the bills as i'm at home to do it. He works all the time (well until recently, starts a new job soon!) and can't even make phone calls so had to be!

[norfolk boy]

Iput the money into the account,the wife takes it out,so far after many years of wed lock this has worked.

[Wisebird]

This is the best method I have heard of so far, Norfolk Boy!