you need to go into an afro carribean hair and beauty shop and buy hair gel with extreme hold. Buy Nixon hair gel (smell great-�2.49 for meduim sized tub) or buy i-freeze gel, the same price. These are gels designed exculisivly to hold your hair in extreme styles, whilst not ruining your hair. They are for all types of hair, european, afro ect. You wont find anything better. They are american brands.
Brands such as Palmers and King of Shaves all came out of the afro carribean hair and beauty shops. Its a shame that big companies only market their stuff.