Teenage Son's and Pornography

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My sons, 15 and 16 are very well-rounded young men. But it has recentley came to my attention that they are smuggling pornograpy into my home. I personally do not approve of this.

I've tried talking to them, and they just laughed at me and said that I didnt know what i was on about...I asked my husband and he said that he was too embarassed to talk about that sort of thing with my sons...I'm getting very frustrated.

They have started putting up posters of topless girls, their computers are probably smotered with it, whatever I do, they just dont listen, buy more, or pin them back up...I'm not winning here...

What should I do?!

[ludwig]

When your teenage son doesn't have a porn stash under his bed, that's the time to worry. I did all the things that Ted Bundy did but stopped short of becoming a serial killer because..well, because i'm not insane I suppose. Having said that, as Andy rightly says - your gaff,  your rules.

[josieann]

I would say they are not respecting you as their mother knowing you do not like it. Is this setting a standard how they will treat girlfirends.  Your husband should point out how they are disrespecting you as a Mother and a Woman to openly display this.

The issue isnt the pornography (all be it sad) its the disrepect they are showing you point this out and they may view it differently. To them at the moment its just something young lads do.  

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thankyou all for your views and comments, and nsorry for not replying sooner, this stupid machine refused to work for me...silly thing.

I had a talk to my husband again about it, and he has talked to them and assured me it's all under sontrol. He didnt tel;l me what he said to them though.

Onece again thankyou all.

[LadyAngler]

My son is 15 now. Last year he found some porno DVD's in the dumpster and brought them into my home and was watching them in his bedroom when I walked in. These were hardcore porno movies.

I was angry more about him blatantly watching these in the house (he said he thought his door was locked).... I made him destroy these and throw them out in the trash.

After my anger subsided I told him he was perfectly normal for being curious about sex and porn but it was NOT allowed in the house.

I'm trying my best to teach him respect for women and how porn can become addicting, etc. I think as a parent and a mother it's up to me to reinforce the fact that sex is more than the rauncy performances he sees in porn and that respecting women is important.

I for one want him to grow up having healthy relationships with girls and hopefully a happy marriage one day so when he veers off track it's my job to steer him back on course and keep his head out of the gutter.