High maintenance?

[banjosister]

When a guy says a girl is high maintenance what does it mean in your opinion?

[sophie_1003]

could mean a number of things-- she needs to see him or speak to him a lot, if he forgets anything she'll go mad and it will take a lot of work to get her to forgive him, she needs to be bought things or taken out a lot

[-Zorro-]

money.....cost a lot to keep her happy

[banjosister]

The general consensus so far seems to be money. Not sure that this applies to me but then I could be biased!

Perhaps with me it's more of an attention thing, really annoying when someone says you're something but then won't explain what they mean.

I guess in the last 12 months we went out three times max, with his friends not mine. Doesn't do valentines he borrowed lots of money from me, I rarely borrowed from him - perhaps twice in the 5 years we were together.

Don't think he means it in a money sense, although he did once say that I only wanted him for his money - he owed me about a grand at that time - how I laughed!!!!

[sophie_1003]

I wouldn't say you were being high maintenance, if you both want to be a couple you need to be alone together at some point!! Semms to me that hes being more high maintenance in money terms and then is just saying that you are to make you feel bad abot wanting your money back and a little attention off him! From what you've said he doesn't seem very nice at all!

[banjosister]

Cheers Sphie,

I think that's the point, we don't both want to be a couple. I still do but have only been able to persuade him by using sex.

[banjosister]

I just wanted him to make time for me. I wanted to feel special.

I think my mistake was that when we first met I wanted to do everything for him, I wanted him to feel special. For at least the first 6 months he would get home have a hot bath run then a bj just to make sure he was properly dry!

I thought that if I did that for him he would do nice things for me. It didn't happen and I ended up feeling resentful.

I should stop dwelling and get on with my life................

[banjosister]

Cheers Caz,

That makes sense.

Thanx xx

[banjosister]

Don't get overexcited legend it only last 6 months as I didn't get fa in return. By the end he was almost beggin!!

That's the prob I know I could ring him now offer the bj and be with him in15 mins............

Wots the point?

[joko]

its not about money, although that factors, it generally means needy and clingy and demanding, and fussy, and controlling

basically it means you have to make a lot of effort all the time in order to please her, as nothing other than contant attention and sacrifice will be acceptable.

[unruliejulie]

i thought exactly the same as joko. Didnt think it was anything to do with money, more needy.

[lillys]

money lol and they seem to think we are moaning all the time but they dont seem to realise without us they wd not function.