this is something that you have to think long and hard about, both of you. and you both have to be truly honest and open about how you see the relationship developing over the years.
I was with my ex husband for 11 years, married for 5 of those. We got together very young and didnt really talk about kids other than to say 'yeah one day'
once we were married i asked my husband about having a family 'yeah one day' he said.
I asked the next year 'one day maybe' he said
the next year the same thing, and so on
Once i got to 29 and him 32 he was still saying it. He was more interested in his life remaining the same, going out with his mates, drinking and partying and i was at an age where i wanted to be a mum and take that step in my life. We could afford it, he didnt think so, I could still work full time, he disagreed. Whatever i said he shyed away from the situation and went out with his mates.
we then both had to make a very tough decision, could we compromise or not. The answer was no.
There were no hard feelings between us, i couldnt force his hand just as he couldnt make me give up my future of children. I needed the chance to have a family with someone that not only loved me but wanted the same as me in life.
My story turned out to have a happy ending. I met someone 2 years after splitting from my husband. A year later our son was born and it was everything that we both wanted.
people on a website cant give you the answers, you have to talk to your girlfriend and see if you can find an answer that you are both happy with.