me and my boyfriend are planning to have sex together, it will also be the first time for both of us so i want it to be as special and as memorable as possible. does anyone have any tips or info on things to avoid for a first time.
make sure it's somewhere you're not going to be disturbed and where you can both spend the night, is so much more special if you can wake up to each other, I even think that now and me n my boyfriend have been sleeping together for nearly four years! (not livin together!)
firstly i would say dont plan it.
If you have both decided you are ready, then fair enough, but dont plan a time for it to happen as you will then both feel under more pressure.
Just let it happen when it does
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Don't expect too much, Being a romantic I had all these wondeful fantasies about how special my first time would be. It wasn't. Mind you I was drunk and did it with the first person who asked, but a close relationship makes all the difference.
It is something you will probably find improves over time as you get to know each other more intimately and learn what the other person likes. A sense of humour is important as well as learning to relax and just let it happen.
Don't ask the man to wear a contraceptive. Not only does it spool the feeling but also the foreplay. Wear sexy, even kinky, clothes that turn him on Find his sensitive parts and gently caress him. Whisper sweetly in his ear and blow gently and at the same time utter sweet nothings. If he reaches the state of climax when he wants to ejaculate press the underside of his penis at its base to prevent this.
Tell him how much you enjoyed it.
Your question point to the negatives but only concentrate on the positives.